Dear Kendall,
Last month I caught my best friend sleeping with my man, we have been together for almost two years. I am no longer with him and I don’t talk to my girlfriend either. I feel so betrayed, I trusted him and I looked at her as my sister. They have both been trying to reconcile. What do you think I should do?
Signed,
Betrayed
Dear Betrayed,
My best advice to you is to walk away from the situation, if your MAN cheated with your BEST FRIEND then he’s not worth a damn and neither is she. Move on with your life, neither one of them are worth your tears.
Kendall
Dear Kendall,
I am about to get married but I am in love with someone else, I love my fiancée dearly and I don’t want to hurt her, but I can’t get enough of the other woman. Should I go through with the wedding or postpone it?
Signed,
Eric
Dear Eric,
You need to ask yourself if your fiancé is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. If she was then you wouldn’t have cheated. You are about to take a sacred vow that should not be broken. Even though it will break your fiancés heart you have to tell her.
Kendall
Dear Kendall,
I have a problem snooping I check my mans voicemail, phone bill, caller ID and email and I have even stooped as low as to have a friend secretly hit on him. Over the last few months I have become a compulsive snooper. I am out of control. Can you give me some advice on how to stop?
Signed,
Compulsive Snooper
Dear Compulsive Snooper,
The reason you snoop is because there is a lack of trust in your relationship, .your snooping helps you feel secure. Most women do some form of snooping whether they know it or not. You are violating his privacy, how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? Why look for things that you know will hurt you? My grandmother always told me “What’s done in the dark will come to the light.” So stop snooping!
Kendall
Dear Kendall,
I recently started messing with this boy. At first I wasn't feeling him but now I'm feeling him so much but I don't want to give him all my affection cuz of fear that we may not be together long enough. He tells me he's feeling me he comes to see me. We speak everyday and we chill when he's not working. I know he talks to other girls and I don't know how to deal with it cuz were just messing around he didn't make it clear that I am his girl although I heard him tell his friend I was. What should I do?
Feeling Mislead
Signed,
Feeling Mislead
Dear Feeling Mislead,
THE ONLY WAY TO KNOW FOR SURE IS IF YOU ASK. IF YOU HAVE TO QUESTION YOUR PLACE IN ANY TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP THEN ITS MEANS THAT YOU ARE ALLOWING YOURSELF TO BE PLACED IN THE DARK AND YOU DON'T NEED/HAVE TO BE THERE. IF A MAN IS TRULY INTO YOU, YOU WILL NEVER HAVE TO QUESTION WHERE YOU STAND ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE MADE IT CLEAR AS TO WHAT YOU WILL AND WILL NOT ALLOW OR STAND FOR. PEOPLE ONLY DO WHAT YOU ALLOW. ASK YOURSELF HOW LONG HAVE YOU TWO BEEN DEALING WITH ONE ANOTHER AND IF HE IS DATING OTHER PEOPLE DON'T PUT ALL YOUR EGGS IN ONE BASKET. YOU DO THE SAME.
STAY ELEVATED!
Kendall
Dear Kendall,
I recently had an in work romance with a co worker. We were working together but I moved on to a new job so we don't see each other anymore. We keep in touch from time to time through text messages and that's it. However when we were working together we only got to see him when we were working we never had a phone conversation we always keep in contact through text. He started tellin me things like he loves me and wants to be with me but has never made any type of plans to c me outside of work. What should I do?
It's a DANGEROUS Job
Signed,
It's a DANGEROUS Job
Dear It's a DANGEROUS Job,
YOU SHOULD NEVER SHIT WHERE YOU EAT. ASK YOURSELF THIS QUESTION, "IF HE HAS NEVER MADE ANY ATTEMPTS TO SEE ME OUTSIDE OF WORK IS HE REALLY THAT INTO ME OR AM I CONVIENT BECAUSE WE WORK TOGETHER?" I KNOW THIS SOUNDS CLICHÉ BUT "IT IS WHAT IT IS!" MAKE NO MORE ATTEMPTS TO REACH OUT UNLESS THIS IS WHAT YOU WANT AND IS SATISFYING ENOUGH. IF YOUR COWORKER WANTS MORE THAN JUST A JOB FLING IM SURE THEY WILL MAKE THE EFFORT BUT OBVIOUSLY THE ONLY EFFORT BEING MADE IS THROUGH THE PUSH OF THE TELEPHONE DIAL. THINK WITH YOUR MIND AND NOT WITH YOUR HEART. DON'T ALLOW THE FACT THAT TO LIKE THIS PERSON OR ANYONE CLOUD WHAT IS APPARENT.
STAY ELEVATED!
Kendall
Dear Kendall,
I've dealt with this guy for a few months and we were into each other-hard. But he lived with is daughters mother. Recently the guy and mu daughters father had some words on my sidekick cause my daughers father went thru my phone. My daughters father said somethings about him that was personal but I didn't tell him, he overheard me talking. The dude wanna be "friends" but I'm really into him and he knows that......what should I do??
Signed,
Dear ,
Sounds like you have a lot going on. Ok first… Are you and your daughters fathers stiil together? I’m confused as to why he’s going through your phone. Word to the wise lock your phone, there is no need for unnecessary drama. If you are feeling this other guy I suggest you explain to him how your daughter’s father knew that information. If he refuses to give you another chance then clearly he was not into you as much as you thought. Oh well that’s his lost; on to the next.
Kendall
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