Dear Kendall,
My boss is a D!@$. He is a workaholic and expects his team to be as well. I’ve been at my job for 3 years at first I loved my position. My boss was nice and considerate. As time went on he became a slave driver. I started working 10-12 hour days and I would check my blackberry on the weekend and there would be emails from him with stuff he “needs” first thing Monday morning. I make a great salary, but I have no work/life balance. What should I do? Should I say something to him or quit?
Signed,
Melinda
Dear Melinda,
With the economy being in the state that it’s in, I recommend talking to your boss. Don’t quit without anything else lined up. If you let him know you are feeling overwhelmed maybe he can delegate the work to one of your colleagues or hire another team member. Start to put your resume out, it takes time to find a good position. Be thankful you have a job, There are a lot of people who would love to switch places with you.
Kendall
Dear Kendall,
I have a problem snooping I check my mans voicemail, phone bill, caller ID and email and I have even stooped as low as to have a friend secretly hit on him. Over the last few months I have become a compulsive snooper. I am out of control. Can you give me some advice on how to stop?
Signed,
Compulsive Snooper
Dear Compulsive Snooper,
The reason you snoop is because there is a lack of trust in your relationship, .your snooping helps you feel secure. Most women do some form of snooping whether they know it or not. You are violating his privacy, how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? Why look for things that you know will hurt you? My grandmother always told me “What’s done in the dark will come to the light.” So stop snooping!
Kendall
Dear Kendall,
My problem has nothing to do with my relationship, It’s a beauty question. My hair is badly damaged and I want to stop wearing weaves and wigs. I’m a very pretty woman ( not to be vain) But my real hair is ruined because if the years of weaving it without treating it. I don’t feel confident with my own hair. What can I do to get my real hair healthy?
Signed,
No more weaves
Dear No more weaves,
It’s hard to break away from the weaves when that is all you are use to. First: start by deep conditioning your hair every week or try hot oil treatments. Second: use a good leave-in conditioner. Also remember drinking plenty of water helps. You have to be patient it is going to take some time for your hair to appear the way you want it. Just be patient and you will get the results you want.
Kendall
Dear Kendall,
Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 9 months now...we never go
out or chill together. Even when i ask him to go out with me and that ill
pay his way and find a ride he stills says no. Claiming he don't have time
or well set up a day just for us and he "forgets".He tends to act mean
towards me when people around , like being rude and saying ignorant things.
I wonder if he's ashamed to go out with me or if he's cheating on me . I
asked him a few times before but he denies it and keep telling me he would
never do that and that he loves me . Should i believe him or follow ma gut
feelings.
Signed,
J.Beautiful
Dear J.Beautiful,
You and your boyfriend have been together for 9 months and he hasn’t taken you anywhere? That’s a little strange. My first question to you is how old is he? Honestly, I don’t think he’s assumed of you. If he was why would you be his lady? Try talking to him and letting him know how his actions make you feel. Communication is the key, if you don’t tell him how you feel then how will he know?
Kendall
Dear Kendall,
I’ve been reading you column for the past 5 months and you always seem to give great advice. So I figured why not give it a try. Here’s my dilemma: my husband and I have been married for 2 years, we don’t have any children yet. I have not been 100% faithful to him, I’ve been seeing another woman for the last 6 months. Kendall… These have been the best 6 months of my life. She affectionate, caring, considerate and sensitive. Oh and girl does she know how to please me. Lately things have gotten really serious between us we can’t go without talking to one another for more than a day. Did I make the right decision by getting married? Am I gay and did know?
Signed,
Confused
Dear Confused,
You have a lot going on.
Kendall
Dear Kendall,
I've dealt with this guy for a few months and we were into each other-hard. But he lived with is daughters mother. Recently the guy and mu daughters father had some words on my sidekick cause my daughers father went thru my phone. My daughters father said somethings about him that was personal but I didn't tell him, he overheard me talking. The dude wanna be "friends" but I'm really into him and he knows that......what should I do??
Signed,
Dear ,
Sounds like you have a lot going on. Ok first… Are you and your daughters fathers stiil together? I’m confused as to why he’s going through your phone. Word to the wise lock your phone, there is no need for unnecessary drama. If you are feeling this other guy I suggest you explain to him how your daughter’s father knew that information. If he refuses to give you another chance then clearly he was not into you as much as you thought. Oh well that’s his lost; on to the next.
Kendall
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